Lately I have been realizing how important it is to stop saying No to things and start saying Yes. Now, this isn’t always easy for me. I deal with anxiety on a daily basis and I am very much a planner. I need notice of something well in advance of it actually occurring. Spur of the moment camping trip, friends dropping over in 30 minutes, an event happening the following day…no thank you! For someone like me, I need at least 3 days to a week in advance of any plans. It makes me feel better, helps ease my anxiety, and gives me time to mentally prepare for whatever it is we are going to do. But, the past few months I have realized by doing this and by saying No when things come up I am limiting myself and missing out on what could be great memories and fun times with those we love.
I realized that there is a very real chance that soon we might not be as close to our family and friends as we are now and we won’t be so lucky to have them within driving distance anymore. There is a chance we could be hours and miles away and if that happens, I don’t want to regret not saying Yes to them. Whenever we say No to something we are potentially missing out on a great opportunity to try something we haven’t before. Saying no often creates a small world for us to live in and not only denies us of some great memories but can be hurtful towards those we love as well.
So I started saying Yes. Someone wants to drop by in the evening…sure come on over, I’ll make a batch of cookies. Weekend camping trip…yep lets go! Ice Skating on Saturday night…let’s do it! I’m not saying this has been easy for me but I can say I haven’t regretted it one bit. By turning my No’s into Yes, I have had to focus hard on controlling my anxiety and finding ways to deal with it so that I am able to say Yes and actually enjoy what we are doing.
By saying Yes to things, we are fully committing to what is happening in the present. Life is short and no one knows how much time they have and no one wants to find themselves regretting not saying Yes to life. Yes, this means I have had to deal with my anxiety more and yes we have had to readjust our budget so that we can allocate more money to fun/entertainment type things but it has so been worth it. There has yet to be a time where I have said Yes and later wished I said No.
So stop saying No and start saying Yes. Say Yes to every opportunity, every get together, and every experience that comes your way. I promise you will not regret it!
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