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Stop Saying Sorry And Be Unapologetically YOU

Stop Saying Sorry And Be Unapologetically YOU

As a small child we were taught to say sorry…to apologize to others.  This life lesson carries with us all throughout our life and into adulthood. But, have you ever stopped to think about how many times you say I’m sorry in a day or a week? Chances are it is more than you think. Stop! Now I’m not telling you to stop apologizing when you are truly in the wrong. If you hurt somebody or did something to someone that deserves an apology then certainly  do it!

What I am talking about is all the apologies we make in a day that we shouldn’t. Stop saying I’m sorry for every little thing. Stop apologizing for simply being human, for being YOU. How many times have you showed up late to meet a friend and immediately said I’m sorry for being late? How many times have you acted silly when out doing something and then apologized for it because people stared? How many times have you said I’m sorry to a friend for talking too much? Stop! Stop apologizing for things that do not need an apology.

Instead of saying I’m sorry for being late why not thank the person waiting instead. Thank them for waiting for you and understanding.

Stop saying I’m sorry for acting silly and instead say thank you for letting me be me and accepting the silly things I do. 

Don’t apologize for talking too much and instead say thank you for listening to me and realizing I needed someone to talk to. 

We apologize entirely too much and for things no one should ever have to apologize for. Stop apologizing for simply being human and being you. One thing I have learned over the past year is to stop saying I’m sorry for something I am really not sorry for. I have found myself apologizing for things that others felt I should apologize for but truthfully I had no reason to. It took a long time for me to realize that I needed to just be unapologetically myself. You should never apologize for simply being you.

There was once a time where I felt like I had to apologize for certain things in my life or a certain way I did things or for the way I lived. But the truth is, you don’t have to apologize to anyone. There will always be people in the world who feel you should apologize for the things you do and who you are. Don’t fall into that trap. Apologize when necessary but never say I’m sorry to someone just because they think you should. There will always be people who don’t agree with you or have a certain opinion about you. Nothing will change that. There is a a quote that says “what other people think of me is none of my business” and that couldn’t be more true. The only opinion that matters is your own. As long as you are happy with yourself that is all that matters. Someone else’s opinion of you isn’t your business. What they choose to do and believe is on them, not you. So stop apologizing for being yourself. Stop saying sorry for having flaws and learn to say thank you to others for seeing your flaws and accepting them instead.

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5 thoughts on “Stop Saying Sorry And Be Unapologetically YOU”

  • Hi Jamie! I have thought about those two words “I’m sorry” for awhile now. I have a particular person in my life who disappoints me so much. All I hear is “I’m sorry!” To me, if a person is truly truly sorry for the disappointment they’ve caused they will stop and do a 360 and quit doing it! You’re right, we are brought up as children to say I’m sorry which to me is learning to be respectful as kids but as we get older stop saying that crap if tomorrow you gone repeat the same thing! This is a good article. Thanks for sharing.

  • it’s interesting to think of how differently we would act if we only said “sorry” when we truly felt sorry! if i understand you correctly, would you not say “sorry i’m late” because you do not actually feel sorry for wasting a friend’s time by making them wait? i would have thought that most people would feel sorry because they would not want to be treated like their time was less valuable – golden rule! i get where you’re coming from, and agree that most people apologize too much for trivial stuff, but this example just rubbed me the wrong way.

    • It’s more about just changing your words and your mindset. I think alot of us immediately say were sorry for being late when in reality it may only have been a couple minutes and the other person probably hadn’t even noticed. We apologize for something so small that more often than not someone else didn’t even realize it had happened until you mentioned it. If I was super late than obviously I would apologize but the idea behind that example was to instead of saying I’m sorry, which most people hear a lot, to turn it around and show gratitude towards the person. Just saying I’m sorry can often feel hollow and empty but by turning it around and telling someone how much you appreciate them for waiting for you and thanking them for understanding, it is just a different way of saying I’m sorry….and in a way that probably makes the other person feel better than just a blanket apology. It doesn’t mean you didn’t feel bad for being late but just you chose a different way to express that apology. I hope that makes a little bit of sense lol

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